Good day, Doc. A week ago, I let my loving boyfriend have brief sex with me for the very first time. We agreed that he would pull out, and he did. That was after around 10 minutes. And as he pulled back, he orgasmed. He said that everything was okay, but I'm sure a little bit of his 'stuff' went inside. This is very worrying for me. Would it be any use taking Postinor?

A: No, it wouldn't. Postinor-2, often known as the after-sex pill, has to be taken within three days of intercourse.

Indeed, the sooner a woman takes it, the better. Ideally, it would be a good thing to have it as soon as you get out of bed.

As it relates to you, I'm afraid that the time for Postinor-2 has passed. Alas, you will just have to wait and see whether the menses arrive.

Assuming that they do arrive, then please do not put yourself in this situation again. I appreciate that it is very difficult for couples who are young and in love and desperate for sex, but if you and your guy are going to have intercourse in the future, I urge you to prepare for it by doing something sensible like going on the Pill or buying condoms.

The Pill for my menses

Since the age of 16, I have had very painful periods. A friend told me that the Pill could cure the problem. Is that right, Doc?

A: Yes. In most cases of menstrual pain in young women, the Pill will work very well and can abolish the pain altogether, but often, it is necessary to try several different brands before you find one that does the trick for you.

Please begin by seeing a doctor and talking this problem over with him.

My fiancé and I are thinking about using condoms until we get married, but what we do not understand is this: What should a couple do after the guy has orgasmed? I have heard that there is danger of the sperm escaping.

A: You have heard right. When a young guy reaches orgasm, he normally starts to lose his erection quite fast.

As a result, he does not fill the condom so well. Because of that, there is a danger that his seminal fluid could leak out from the condom around the base of his organ.

Therefore, experts say that the best thing to do is this: Within half a minute after discharging, he should withdraw from your body while holding the condom firmly on to his penis with his fingers.

Once he is outside of you, he can take the condom off and tie a knot on it to prevent the sperm from escaping.

Finally, it is very important to remember that he will still have live spermatazoa on his organ, so do not allow him to bring it anywhere near you until he has washed his penis carefully.

Please doctor, I have been having sex with my hubby since we got married a few months ago, but I don't know whether the hymen is still there because I have pain when he puts his penis inside me. So is there a drug to use in order to remove the hymen?

A: No, I am afraid there isn't. From what you say, it is probable that your hymen (or virgin's veil) has gone. It is quite common for young women to have a few tags, which are little bumps, in the area where the hymen used to be.

These tags can be tender and may even bleed a little bit. They are nothing to fret about and will gradually shrink.

What I think you should do now is to consult a doctor and have him check you out in order to see if there is any other reason for your pain. It's possible that he will just say that you need to relax more and use a good sex lubricant.

Do email me again if the problem doesn't go away.

I am a 22-year-old man. My problem is, five years ago, I had a girlfriend, and whenever we had sex, it was fine. I had no difficulty with stamina, and so we always used to have intercourse for a good period of time. But now that we have broken up, I find that when I go with another girl, I am not able to last past five minutes, so I need your advice on how to last longer.

A: OK. At the moment you have mild premature ejaculation (PE), but I am sure that this is only temporary.

The obvious reason why this has happened is the break-up with your previous girlfriend. I don't know whether deep down you are upset about that or whether maybe you have some feelings of guilt about going with another girl.

All I can tell you is that when young men have mental conflicts or anxieties, they often develop temporary PE, and as their lives calm down, the condition nearly always gets better.

What treatments are available? Here is a list:

1. You could try taking an anti-depressant called Anafranil before you have sex. Some doctors are willing to prescribe this, but it does have side effects.

2. There is a fairly new drug called Dapoxetine, which delays male climax, but it is very expensive, and you may have trouble finding a doctor who would give it to you.

3. There are special condoms which contain a local anaesthetic. The idea is to numb the penis and so delay climax.

4. The best solution is to try the famous Masters-Johnson retraining exercises, which you can find fully described on the Internet. They are only likely to work, however, if you use them for several months with the help of a willing and cooperative female partner.

From your email, I have the feeling that you are pretty fed up. But be of good cheer. I am sure that you will eventually be OK.

Email questions to Doc at saturdaylife@gleanerjm.com and read more in the Outlook Magazine tomorrow.